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And I admit, I listened.
I thought about interrupting them but I wanted to hear what they were saying about her. Usually I am not the type of person who will listen in when someone is talking about someone else, however, I couldn’t help it because…
…every word they were saying was true.
Today as I sat in my office at church, I had my door open and a couple ladies were out in the main office chatting and I heard Krista’s name. My ears perked up, I stopped what I was doing and I eavesdropped.
What they said made me proud.
My wife is currently participating in a Bible class at church and the class participants share emails throughout the week as they process the material. The two ladies are both enrolled and were discussing what Krista had shared. I don’t know what she wrote in her email to them but apparently it was inspiring. They went on to talk about her insight and giftedness and I couldn’t help but smile from ear to ear. On this occasion, they were not complimenting her to me, rather sharing about how she had blessed their lives without knowing that their praises were blessing me. I was immediately reminded of Proverbs 31:
She always faces tomorrow with a smile.When she speaks she has something worthwhile to say,and she always says it kindly.She keeps an eye on everyone in her household,and keeps them all busy and productive.Her children respect and bless her;her husband joins in with words of praise:“Many women have done wonderful things,but you’ve outclassed them all!”Charm can mislead and beauty soon fades.The woman to be admired and praisedis the woman who lives in the Fear-of-God.Give her everything she deserves!
What is the opposite of “dysfunctional living?” Is it, being happy? Nothing ever going wrong? Perfect parenting or a marriage without arguing? We can sometimes joke about the effect of our unhealthy relationship styles. Maybe laughing about our faults is a good way of not taking things too seriously. Not taking a close look, though, at the dysfunction in our lives can result in not even tasting what the “abundant life” is like. How do we even pursue living the abundant life and what does it look like?
The abundant life is to seek and know this holy and perfect God, understand the plan He has initiated, discover how He is writing the story to accomplish this plan, and then humbly receive your script and play your part – as written.
Becoming a Spiritually Healthy Family, p.13
Saturday we launch into our book club covering Michelle Anthony’s Becoming a Spiritually Healthy Family: Avoiding the 6 Dysfunctional Parenting Styles. It’s not too late to join and the club “meetings” are all online, on your own time! I will be posting chapter responses and questions here on this blog and anyone is welcome to participate! The book is available on Amazon.com. Visit the initial post about the club for more information!
Spiritually healthy families come from spiritually healthy individuals who, on their journey together, seek to live “on script” each day. Spiritually healthy families are not made up of people who never mess up their lines, or forget whether to enter stage left or stage right – they are not perfect performers. But they are families working together as loving case members, discovering the intimate beauty of watching the character development of each person unfold-in the midst of the messiness.
Michelle Anthony, Becoming a Spiritually Healthy Family, p.13
Next week we begin a book club to help us learn to live “on script.” When we realize that we cannot have spiritually healthy families without being spiritually healthy individuals, the pressure is really on. If we desire our families to be living the abundant life that Jesus offers, we have to take an honest look at the habits we have that keep us from joining the story God has planned for us!
I hope you’ll consider joining us for this book study. We will read a chapter a week and I will write an initial response on this blog to each chapter. If you care to share your own thoughts or responses, you can do so through the comments!
Get the book now on Amazon or at a Christian bookstore in order to begin reading on April 12th! The first chapter response will be posted on the 18th! Click here to read the post with complete reading schedule.
I look forward to learning to live “on script” with you!
Parenting Book Club!
Becoming a Spiritually Healthy Family:
Avoiding the 6 dysfunctional parenting styles
Do you desire for your parenting to be spiritually healthy? If you want this but do not know how to get there, join us in a book study of Michelle Anthony’s, Becoming a Spiritually Healthy Family. We will take time weekly to read a chapter and respond to discussion questions from the text with one another.
The goal is to encourage one another through our own self-reflection about ways our parenting functions and dysfunctions! Through the public discussion, you will find that you are not alone! We all need some help pinpointing what needs to be done different and sharing in this book club together is one way for us all to benefit!
Below is an excerpt from the back of the book:
Who’s in charge of your family: You or Jesus?
We all want to guide our children in to the abundant life that Jesus offers. But when we pursue the more and better that the world offers above our pursuit of Jesus, we fall into dangerous parenting habits.
In Becoming a Spiritually Healthy Family, Michelle Anthony unpacks six common dysfunctional parenting styles that we fall into out of habit, lack of attention, or just oversight due to busyness. If you long to show your children Jesus but don’t know how to do it, you’ll find hope in this practical guide to creating a relentlessly grace-filled home that is focused on God as first in charge.
HOW THE BOOK CLUB WORKS:
- Comment below if you’d like to participate!
- Get the book! Check Amazon.com or local Christian bookstores.
- Check back each week (or subscribe!) and reply to the post about the chapter you’ve just completed. You can share your responses to the questions from the book or to the chapter in general!
Here is a schedule for the readings & responses (Initial response will be posted on the last day of the week!):
Chapter 1 – The Director and the Script
Chapter 2 – The Six Dysfunctions of Parenting
April 26th-May 2nd:
Chapter 3 – Kissing the World Goodbye
May 3rd-May 9th:
Chapter 4 – Free Indeed
May 10th-May 16th:
Chapter 5 – Beyond the Pursuit of Perfection
Chapter 6 – Relinquishing Control
May 24th-May 30th:
Chapter 7 – A Time to Bless
May 31st-June 6th:
Chapter 8 – Living a Meaningful Family Mission
June 7th-June 13th:
Chapter 9 – Beyond Good Behavior and Chore Charts
June 14th-June 20th:
Chapter 10 – Remember & Celebrate the Abundant Life
I have been so blessed to share about the ups and downs of marriage alongside some men who deeply love the Lord lately. One thing has become clear through this journey. Many men fear that their imperfections in marriage or parenting disqualify them from being considered “godly.”
If faith is important to a man, his wife pays him the biggest compliment when she tells him he is godly despite his imperfections. This single affirmation communicates to him that despite his – often hurtful – actions he remains “enough.”
The deceptive anthem that inhibits men from living fully from their hearts says, “You have little to offer your family spiritually unless you get it all together.” For some men, the fear of being seen as hypocritical for trying to impart faith in their home while at the same time having a temper, being prideful, lusting after a woman, or giving into workaholism shackles them to a lie of never-ending shame.
Men, it’s not your love for God or your blameless behavior or your perfect job, wife, house, or kids that makes you worthy. Jesus committed his life to you before you committed yours to him. He did it knowing the heart in which he would choose to live would inevitably feel the weight of the shame for which he died. There in the place where you experience the most shame is the location where he chose to take up residence.
Live from a heart that has been set free by the presence of a resurrected Lord who is not ashamed of what he finds tucked away, hidden from the rest of the world.
You are enough for him.
Your heart is good enough.