Get a Job Buddy!

This week I have been at the Orange Conference. A three-day event for ministry leaders who have as their primary interest a partnership between the church and the home. To be honest, I felt a little out-of-place. This past August my job as a full-time children’s minister ended and since then I have been taking up the responsibilities of a stay-at-home parent, homeschooling my kindergartener and chasing our 2 year old around the house!  Attending the Orange Conference last year, I was focused on attending classes that would help me to equip the volunteers working under my leadership and networking with other ministry leaders from whom I had much to learn. I happened to bump into a few people I have met over the years who, through Facebook and twitter, know vague details about where me and my family are at. A brief exchange between me and another children’s ministry leader who I look up to a lot, left me feeling insulted for the first time about my “at-home” status.

He asked me what I was up to and if I was ministering anywhere. I replied, “Yeah, I am staying at home and homeschooling our daughter.” His first response was, “You need to get a job, buddy!” I don’t recall exactly what I said to him in response. I fumbled through a kind response, hoping to end the conversation quickly, hoping to communicate that I consider it a privilege to minister to my children at home. I always found it shocking when I would hear a report of people diminishing the importance of the role that stay-at-home moms have with phrases like, “So, you don’t work?” or “Don’t you miss having areal job?”

Stay-at-home moms, today I can honestly say, “I know how you feel.”

Still praying through this one. I know God is using my current situation to draw me closer to my daughters. In a world where the positive relationship between a father and his girls has such an invaluable impact, I cannot afford to let such comments deter me from giving my daughters my very best. They need to know that right now, raising them full-time isn’t something I am settling for. Every dad has a calling to disciple his children. Father’s of girls have the additional responsibility of showing them what it means to be loved like Christ loves the church. It’s impossible to estimate just how valuable the time I spend with my girls is during this season of life. Only God knows what it is worth and how much my life will be blessed by it.

~JK

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About joshkellar

I'm married to an incredible woman of God and have two daughters that love to laugh and delight in the Lord. My goal in life is to bring others into closer relationship with God by engaging them in His story as we journey together in a faith-filled community. The basis for every decision I make in life comes back to my calling to share the love of God with those around me. My hope is that at every opportunity I will encourage others into a greater lifelong journey of discipleship.

Posted on April 27, 2012, in Family and tagged , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 2 Comments.

  1. I have a job. I have to say I envy your situation. I would gladly trade. I know at first I would be pulling my hair out, but I’m sure with time I would settle into a manageable rhythm. But I know you’re working hard. God bless your ministry brother!

  2. Josh, I’m proud of you and your decision to be a stay at home dad. It’s what God has called you to do for now and what great ministry is there. I know first hand what it’s like to not have a dad around. It’s not good. Your girls are more than blessed to have this time with you and never never doubt that!
    Shame on that person for saying that to you, he/she does not have a window into your world and if they could see what I’ve seen their statement would have been much different. With much prayer and God’s guidance, You and Krista made this decision together and until both of you feel differently about it. YOU GO DAD!

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